Obscenity, Children, and Parenting
Tuesday, April 26th, 2005 by Lauren LyonsI know the research suggests a correlation between pornography and harm to children (e.g., STDs, teenage pregnancy, sex crimes, and sexual addiction). But these assertions are not hard fact. As a minor, I was exposed to pornographic internet pop-ups (my high school had not installed any filters on the computers). Yet I am not a sex addict. I have never committed a sex crime, and have no STDs or children. Where does this paranoia and fear come from in this country? Not all rapists keep pornographic magazines underneath their mattresses, and not all children who go into the XXX section of their local video store view women as mere sex objects.
I can understand a parent’s desire to protect their children from material they believe to be morally abject. But why should the government play any role in this? Yes, the state does have the right and responsibility to protect its citizens. But the state has no place in the home. This means protecting the rights not only of the people who like pornography and gain something valuable from it, but the rights of parents to raise their children. Parents want the government to let them spank their children and allow them to educate their kids how ever they want, but when it comes to performing the responsibilities of passing on the values and morals that they themselves hold down to their offspring, they’d prefer to have the government suppress information that is contrary to their own sensibilities rather than to teach these values to their children themselves.
Because the values of various people in our culture differ, parents should decide what their kids are exposed to—not the government. Mom and Dad should 1) apply the appropriate website filters, and 2) tell their kids not to go to these sites, and explain why. Are children so subject to their primal curiosity/imminent sexual desires that they won’t listen to mom and dad? And if so, why not and whose fault is that? Attributing moral problems in the culture to the media, is irresponsible. Eminem and Marilyn Manson don’t cause school shootings. 50 Cent and Tupac aren’t responsible for gang violence. Parents don’t want their kids’ sex education video encouraging condoms for gay sex for fear that their kid may “become” gay. Aside from the ridiculousness of this assertion, if the parents sat down and discussed homosexuality with their kids instead of trying to pretend that it does not exist, or pretend that their kids are not sexual beings (at least near adolescents), then they would not need to depend on the government to solve their parenting problems.
When parents grew up, Lucy and Ricky slept in separate beds. Now moms have their Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City. This, and the nature of the way information is passed through society today results in kids being exposed to sex at earlier ages. They gain access to smut in a culture where it is widely available to adults. I am shocked at what comes on network television. Eva Longoria prances around in a bra and panties, pops a birth control pill, and sleeps with the gardener; On Law and Order SVU, sex crimes are detailed thoroughly. On the Simpsons, you have an animated dysfunctional family with unruly children, frequent sexual references, and characters with questionable morality; but the episode where the town of Springfield passes a law condoning gay marriage drives FOX to place a “parental advisory” screen up, informing parents that this episode deals with sensitive subject matter. But how is the death of Snowball the cat not sensitive subject matter? Or when Maude Flanders falls to her demise from the bleachers? Or when Homer almost has an affair with a coworker? And many parents have no problem letting their children watch this cartoon, and many don’t bother to watch the show alongside them. These are some of America’s favorites. Parents can’t have their cake and eat it, too.